You all know I am a photographer, a mom of five beautiful girls, a wife of a very loving husband, and a beachbody coach.
One thing I have learned is that life is not always what you want it to be..we get busy, things come up, dreams are taken away, and life happens. I promised myself that I would not let some things get to me but honestly they have my mind clouded to where I have NOT been working out, I have been in "angel world".
I love being a mom of my five girls and who knows maybe we will expand our family one day and maybe we won't. I had the dream of having a boy taken from me and yet some think it is "just a name". This was not taken by just some stranger or a friend but by my own sister. This name I have had picked out for MY SON if I ever had one has been taken.
I know once this gets out many will think I am throwing the pitty me party but keep reading until the end!
I was told it was something my Grandma told my sister to name her kid because they didn't have a boys name picked out. However, that to me is no excuse when you know that it has been picked out forever. Some say hers is Parker Alan not Alan Parker so you can still use the name...honestly NO I cannot because that would just be STUPID! Some may say I am being selfish but honestly I DO NOT care if I am.
One thing I have learned is that life is not always what you want it to be..we get busy, things come up, dreams are taken away, and life happens. I promised myself that I would not let some things get to me but honestly they have my mind clouded to where I have NOT been working out, I have been in "angel world".
I love being a mom of my five girls and who knows maybe we will expand our family one day and maybe we won't. I had the dream of having a boy taken from me and yet some think it is "just a name". This was not taken by just some stranger or a friend but by my own sister. This name I have had picked out for MY SON if I ever had one has been taken.
I know once this gets out many will think I am throwing the pitty me party but keep reading until the end!
I was told it was something my Grandma told my sister to name her kid because they didn't have a boys name picked out. However, that to me is no excuse when you know that it has been picked out forever. Some say hers is Parker Alan not Alan Parker so you can still use the name...honestly NO I cannot because that would just be STUPID! Some may say I am being selfish but honestly I DO NOT care if I am.
This is for all those out there that think I need to "get over it", "move on", "it's just a name", "just get along", "forgive and forget", or "find a new name". I am sorry but see it is not that easy. I have tried to just find a new name but that doesn't bring back the dream of my only son having the name I picked out when I was little, the dream of my only son having a name picked out after my father and my Grandma. That doesn't make it any easier to sit and listen to you all say this because in the end I keep my mouth shut, I let it build up, I have to be the good girl. I am sick of being the one to forgive and forget and do it all over again.
In the end I know that many people fight battles like this and who knows I may get to have my son with a different name. Although, nobody should constantly be forgiving their family for doing screwed up stuff and trying to forget their dreams that they have had for a lifetime. Don't pitty me because I was screwed over but learn from me.
Keep your names for your potential children to yourself
Do not let people walk all over you for life because it's too short.
Today I am holding my head high and making sure to reach for the stars while I finish my 3 year old's room with my husband for his vacation, while I get ready to start Core de Force Monday (want to know about it just ask), and while I enjoy the life I have been given!
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