Think before you speak

Many individuals these days work because they have to which I understand. I had to at one point too so that I could help provide for my family. I do not believe these individuals are any less than myself. However, I do find it as many of these individuals believe that mother's or father's like myself are less than they are.

Okay they main difference here is that one parent goes to work while the other stays home with the kids when there is a stay at home parent. On the other hand one or both parents work while the child goes to someone/somewhere to be watched. Therefore, there isn't much of a difference.

I can tell you when I was working, going to college online, helping at home, taking care of my 4 girls and my husband was off training for a job it was not easy but it was life and God didn't give me more than I could handle. I had to leave work to get a kid, I had to make plans for babysitters when one couldn't do it at the last minute, I had to do the house work, school work, and make sure everything was done because my husband didn't get to come home at night.

Now I am back to being a stay at home mom and doing photography while pregnant with our 5th child. I would not change this for the world as my kids are my life. What I would change is the fact of people acting like I do not do anything, acting like I am "too busy", and here's a list of the rest of things I have heard throughout the years while I was and am a stay at home mom.

"You need to get a job"
Response: I have a job, in fact I am about to have 5 full time jobs called children, cleaning a 5 bedroom 2 story house, taking care of 3 acres of land, doing laundry, and making sure my husband/children get a hot meal because I DO NOT believe my husband should have to come home after working all day just to work some more.

"Why don't you just get a baby sitter"
Response: I don't like anyone to watch my children under 1 yr of age. With 1 child everyone wanted to watch her and be around, the 2nd one came and fewer wanted anything to do with my family, now going on to 5 children we don't have people that want to watch my children because of how many there are and I won't split them up.

"Are you done having kids?"
Response: I will be done when my husband and I decide that we are done. We will NOT consult you, your family, your friends, or anyone else in this decision as it is OURS to make. It is my body and his choice to go with it or not. If you do not like it don't bother putting in your two cents.

"How do you do it?"
Response: I just do, there is no right/wrong way to take care of your kids unless you aren't doing anything to make sure they are bettering themselves. I make sure my kids are on their best behavior in public, follow directions, and use their manners. I make sure my children know that their are consequences for their bad actions and rewards for their good actions.

"Wow you must have a lot of money"
Response: Just because we have what we do doesn't mean we are rich it means we know how to budget our money to be able to do what needs done.

Trust me there are many more things that can come to mind but I don't feel like rambling on all day long. Other than being considered a lazy individual because I am a stay at home mom with nothing better to do than what everyone else wants I started to go back to believing I can make everyone happy which is beyond impossible. I may have to go back to the belief that if you cannot do for me I am done doing for you, if you cannot treat me like I am a human being I am done treating you right, and I am done with those that want to make rude comments.

Here is a bit of the inside of my life from many: I am 29, married, on my 5th kid, my teeth are messed up/breaking due to pyorrhea (an infection that spurs up, eats your teeth from the inside out because you didn't have proper dental hygiene as a child). I live day to day knowing my beautiful smile has been taken and do not need people pointing out to me that I need to get my teeth fixed (yanked and dentures are the only way to fix them). Then to have my weight pointed out to me; I know I am not skinny and when I was y'all said I was too skinny. Now I am too fat well people look in the mirror and I am sure that there are plenty flaws about yourself. I may not be skinny, have perfect teeth, the looks everyone wants to see but I AM GORGEOUS ON THE INSIDE!! One other thing when I do get back to being that skinny pretty girl you guys want around then you will find that's when I quit being around!! So before you go telling everyone else how they need to be because they are not satisfying what you want them to be/look like first go see what is making you be that way because to me it shows a very ugly side that I'd want to keep hidden.

I will never be perfect but as long as I, my husband, and my kids love me for me I am gorgeous because I have something greater than looks I have a heart filled with gold!

11 weeks

      That is how long we have until we meet our newest child. We are both excited and nervous as parents which is funny as we have done this four other times. You'd think that we would just be excited instead of having the nervousness however, if you knew my past births then you'd be nervous too.

     This pregnancy by far has been the easiest out of all of them and the calmest baby although s/he is a night owl completely!! I am okay with that though because it means that I get to spend some quality time watching/feeling him/her move around, listening to the heartbeat, and just relaxing.

     I must say that this year is flying by!! In a few short months it will be the halfway point and another birthday down. I cannot believe how quickly time is flying for all my kids.

    Aaliyah will be out of 3rd grade come June 1st, Amilliyah will be done with Pre-K for good come May 29th, Adriyahna will be done with her first year of Pre-K May 29th, and Alyson has learned to count to 12 and says her A,B,C's in a bit of skipping order.

However, we are making it through potty training and just have night time to go and I keep debating on waiting for that until after the baby is here because she is so excited for the baby to get here.

I cannot wait to see which of the kids are right on the gender..
Aaliyah-Boy (PLEASE)
Amilliyah-Girl (If not we will buy it hair)
Adriyahna- Girl (I don't like boys they are gross)
Alyson-Boy(Calls it her baby brutter all the time)
Daddy- Boy (It is a complete 360 from the others because you're not such a b****)
My instinct says boy but I keep saying it has to be a girl since that's all we have :D I guess we will see...

Until then the kicks, and potty breaks continue.

Going Down that Road AGAIN!!!

Yes, we are going down that road again. You know the one where we are adding a 7th A Baby to the family!!!!

We found out on my Dad's Birthday November 27th, 2014!

We did not announce it to everyone until Feb 14th with a cute little photo.

Next, we tried to find out the gender well ya that did not go as planned because this baby literally hates a camera and anything by its' booty.


So, we go to the doctor today to get our 20 week 6 day ultrasound to make sure the baby is healthy....We are not finding out the gender!!! We decided that if this child does not like a camera we will not be forcing the child to be in front of one longer than need be.

So here it is the last ultrasound photograph because you will have to wait to see the one from today...

Now until we meet again on this little gem.


The girls are doing great and just waiting to find out what we are having. Other than that I won't be in school after this semester as I am not able to get financial aid and do not have 5500.00/semester for the next 5 semesters.

Here's a little something to leave you with as the kids are home and 1 is sick>>>

Have a wonderful DAY!!!!!!